What if we didn’t have to push so hard all the time? What if we could go easy on ourselves, and still get shit done?
When I entered the world of personal development, it got clear pretty quickly that working your ass off to achieve your dream is expected. You can wear burnout as a pledge of honor.
“I’m so tired, I got home from work last night and then worked on my business until 2am. That’s what you gotta do.”
I absorbed this thought system and quickly became one of the many overworked, busy women who’s always on the lookout for the next thing to cross off her to-do list, not allowing herself any kind of pleasure along the way. I had successfully taken on the “I just need to push through until I get there, you don’t understand, worried friends” perspective.
It dawned on me that I wasn’t really happier than I used to be before I decided I wanted a life full of happiness & meaning. This thought was so painful, that I kept it at bay by putting even more things on my to-do list. I had gotten into personal development because it looked like a way of life that made sense, one where we create lives we love and become the best version of ourselves. The thought that this might not be possible was so devastating to everything I believed in that I rejected it immediately and pretended everything was fine.
After a while, it became so apparent that I wasn’t happy that even I couldn’t ignore it anymore. When I woke up in the morning, I didn’t want to get out of bed because the pressure of my to-do list was looming me. And that not wanting to get out of bed thing? Was what got me rethinking my life and turning to personal development in the first place.
I was lost and confused and didn’t really know who to turn to, because maybe there was something wrong with me and everybody else didn’t suffer as much?
If you’ve started working towards your dream full of hope and ambition, and now find yourself exhausted along the way, I’m with you.
Let me tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, I now believe it’s the dumbest way to do things.
I want you to know that you’re not alone, and that it’s possible to create the life you want for yourself without sacrificing joy in the present. Killing yourself now doesn’t equal rewards in the future. It means unhappiness now, and nothing else.
I get it, I’ve been there. I know how heartbreaking it is to feel like you’re not getting anywhere, even though you’re doing your best and working so hard.
Let me tell you this:
You don’t have to push so hard all the time.
You can go easy on yourself and still make progress.
You can take time to let go and relax, in fact it’s gonna help you get shit done.
Can you believe me when I say that? I used to cringe at statements like these. I thought working myself into exhaustion was a necessary part of my commitment. Now I’ve experienced for myself that there’s another way.
Guess what, I’m enjoying myself a lot more. And I’m also moving forward faster than I used to when I spent all my time in front of my laptop.
Think on these things. Just let them ruminate in your mind for a while. If you have questions, ask me. Let’s see if we can bust through the old rules of achievement and find a way that’s more joy filled together.
- "This Is Too Big for Me" – No, It's Not. Here's How to Beat the Odds
- How to Escape A Life That Bores You to Death
- Too Much to Do Too Little Time: How to Get Off The Hamster Wheel
- Why You Need to Live Your Dreams to Make Your Life Meaningful (spoiler alert: you will die)
- Unhappiness 101
- How to Do What You Love, Change the World & Get Paid to Do it
- Let's Challenge the Scientists: The Happiness Experiment (join us!)
- What to Do When Everything Plain Sucks: A Gentle Suck-Day Survival Kit
- The Beauty of a Morning Ritual: How it Can Help You Get Your Joy Back
- Burnout Is Not Cool. I Know You’re Serious About Your Dream, But Stop Killing Yourself Over It.
- Listen to your intuition. It trumps your rational mind.
- You can’t skip the fucking journey (& why I haven’t been blogging as much)