Life is not about getting by. It’s not about waiting for the next holiday to come around.
There is more.
In between the daily hassle you have asked yourself if maybe your life could be more exciting, less stressful and, yeah let’s face it: Less boring.
Ok, let me break this to you: You have the power to become anything you want. You can do whatever you feel like with your life.
The only thing that’s stopping you from living the life of your dreams is: You.
You are your own disease. And your own cure.
You can not blame anyone but yourself for the life you have right now. You’re responsible for the good and the bad.
Sure, there might have been circumstances that you could not directly control, but that doesn’t matter. You always had the opportunity to choose how you react and deal with those circumstances.
You have to understand and accept this if you want to live a life that you’re proud of and that you’re in love with.
You also need to believe in your dreams again.
All the dead dreams…
Most people lose their ability to dream in high school. Somewhere between classes and your first kiss you lose it. Just like that.
You accept that everyone around you is right, that there is no way for you to be that lucky exception who gets to live his dreams. You surrender and agree to follow the standard path society has laid out for you.
The little rebellious spark in you dies in silence.
And you continue to live your life as if nothing ever happened.
You do the things that you know you should do, so you finish high school and pick a major in college that seems to be a good idea according to the current economic situation and your parents advice.
When uncle Harry asks you what you want to do after college, you quickly shrug you’re shoulders and say that you’re not sure yet, maybe something with ____ (fill in the blank with some fancy word you’ve heard in your last lecture).
Yet secretly you hope that it will all start to make sense when you graduate. That you will finally have that light bulb moment when you understand what it is you want to do with your life, completed with a step-by-step foolproof process you can follow.
+++Breaking news: Nobody will be able to figure out what to do with your life except for you+++
I’m sorry to disappoint you, but the magic light bulb moment will never come.
If you don’t get up and actively do something to figure it all out, nothing will ever change.
“In life, people tend to wait for good things to come to them. And by waiting, they miss out. Usually, what you wish for doesn’t fall in your lap; it falls somewhere nearby, and you have to recognize it, stand up, and put in the time and work it takes to get to it. This isn’t because the universe is cruel. It’s because the universe is smart. It has its own cat-string theory and knows we don’t appreciate things that fall into our laps.”
― Neil Strauss
No one can connect the dots for you. That is your job.
You can’t rely on someone else to make the big decisions in life for you. If you do, the decisions might seem easier to make but you’ll pay for them with an unfulfilled life.
Your current situation is not your parents, society’s or your ex boyfriend’s fault. And no, the world doesn’t hate you. The problem is, you don’t care about your life enough.
If you would, you wouldn’t go about it without a plan. You’d listen to your soul to find out what it’s calling for. You’d make plans to make it happen and then go make it happen. You’d fall, you’d get up, adjust your strategy, fall again, get up, adjust your strategy and one day you’ll be feeding your soul with the things it so truly desires.
Why your life bores the crap outta you
Do you get out of bed every morning without a clear idea of what you’re working towards or why you’re doing it?
Do you just get up and deal with whatever life throws your way and then complain about it?
Yeah. Well, then my friend, you’re a lovely looser. And that’s okay. I’ve been there. In fact, that’s how I’ve lived my entire life until just 6 months ago when I found out that we don’t have to live that way.
Instead of just getting by we can wake up everyday, excited to get to design our life around what we care about. We can feel a much higher level of satisfaction and happiness everyday.
The first step is to wake up and take charge of your life again.
That’s all I’m asking you to do today. Decide whether or not you want to live a life you love and go after your dreams or if you want to stay in the comfortable disaster you’re living right now.
Hint: Option 1 is much more fun.
I’m here with you. Bright Little Socks is meant to help you live consciously and wake up excited every single day.
Don’t worry about the next steps yet. I’ll walk you through them in the coming weeks and months.
For now, make the shift to believe that living your dreams is actually possible.
- "This Is Too Big for Me" – No, It's Not. Here's How to Beat the Odds
- How to Escape A Life That Bores You to Death
- Too Much to Do Too Little Time: How to Get Off The Hamster Wheel
- Why You Need to Live Your Dreams to Make Your Life Meaningful (spoiler alert: you will die)
- Unhappiness 101
- How to Do What You Love, Change the World & Get Paid to Do it
- 10 Life Lessons Learned on a Trip to the End of the World
- What to Do When Everything Plain Sucks: A Gentle Suck-Day Survival Kit
- The Beauty of a Morning Ritual: How it Can Help You Get Your Joy Back
- Burnout Is Not Cool. I Know You’re Serious About Your Dream, But Stop Killing Yourself Over It.
- Listen to your intuition. It trumps your rational mind.
- You can’t skip the fucking journey (& why I haven’t been blogging as much)